Janeiro (e 2015) começou numa festa de ano novo em Santa Teresa, cercada de amigos novos e antigos, ao lado de algumas das pessoas mais especiais da minha vida. Janeiro envolveu tentativas de andar de bicicleta (bem sucedidas!), de jogar GTA (horrivelmente mal sucedidas), de virar a Taylor Swift (o cabelo pelo menos está no caminho certo) e de decidir o que fazer da minha vida (the jury’s still out on that one). Trabalhei sem parar, no meu dayjob, nos freelas, na Capitolina, mas por isso pude cortar e pintar meu cabelo, comprar um salto novo (como se eu precisasse de mais um), comprar e montar uma piscina inflável para suportar o calor carioca, e almoçar frequentemente em lugares gostosos que fazem eu me sentir bem. E até agora consegui cumprir uma das minhas resoluções pessoais de ano novo: voltar a escrever mais: na Capitolina falei de Taylor Swift com a Thais, de poder com a Clara, de Sailor Moon no meio de um monte de gente, um pouquinho de Gossip Girl, e de frustrações comigo mesma.
O próximo passo é escrever nesse blog algo além de listas (prometo que tenho um .doc aberto aqui com um texto em andamento), mas, por enquanto, cá está meu mês de janeiro, em listas:
Li muito menos do que de costume este mês, porque não encontrei tempo para investir em leituras. Dos três livros, um eu tinha começado em dezembro, um é acadêmico e um é uma releitura. Ou seja, nada muito inovador, né? De qualquer forma, eles são:
The bonfire of the vanities, Tom Wolfe
Comecei no final de dezembro achando que seria uma leitura mais rápida do que foi. Mas as 600 páginas do romance são densas, pingando de críticas sociais, arquétipos novaiorquinos e opulência do Upper East Side. Achei especialmente propício estar lendo um livro que é sobre racismo, injustiça e violência policial e o que constrói uma vítima ao olhar do público em um momento sociopolítico como o que vivemos agora.
Le genre, théorie et controverses, Laure Bereni & Mathieu Trachman (Ed.)
Demorei umas semanas pra matar o romance do Tom Wolfe, mas peguei um livro acadêmico sobre gênero em francês e terminei em uma noite de insônia. Vai entender, né? A coletânea é curta, e não reúne os textos mais úteis para alguém se iniciando nos estudos de gênero ou para alguém procurando algo mais teórico e abrangente; mas foi muito enriquecedora para mim, por conta dos comentários e estudos sobre como a teoria de gênero se manifesta na França, e sobre os debates feministas específicos de lá.
The secret history, Donna Tartt
Eu já falei sobre o quanto eu amo esse livro aqui, então vou ficar quieta dessa vez, mas preciso comentar a diferença da experiência de relê-lo. Da primeira vez que li, o caráter trágico – no sentido mais grego e tradicional – me marcou; mas, da segunda vez, a tristeza, a tragédia mais pontual e humana, me tocou muito mais. Acho que na primeira leitura eu ainda estava envolvida nas personas que os personagens criavam para eles mesmos, e ler já sabendo do que acontece fez com que tudo parecesse muito mais tocante e destruidor.
Na época em que eu usava Livejournal, toda semana eu fazia uma lista de filmes que tinha visto. E eram tantos por semana, que agora eu me pergunto se não tinha mesmo algum superpoder de manipular o tempo. Hoje em dia vejo poucos filmes, e este mês foram só dois:
Girltrash: All night long (2014)
Refleti muito antes de ver esse filme, por conta das controvérsias relativas ao seu lançamento, mas o Netflix me sugeriu ele tantas vezes que não resisti. Acabei assistindo e enchendo o saco da Verônica por mensagem de tanto que gostei. É ridículo, é cafona demaaaaais, mas é uma comédia romântica musical lésbica, e tem a Tasha de The L Word no papel de uma criminosa badass, então foi impossível não adorar. Passei a semana seguinte com as músicas na cabeça (e, infelizmente, não consigo achar o CD pra baixar ou pra ouvir no Youtube).
Relatos Salvajes (2014)
Esse filme tá tão hypado que nem dá pra comentar sem falar tudo que já falaram antes de mim: é sim maravilhoso, é sim hilário, a cena do casamento é espetacular, a cena do avião também. Alguns relatos de vingança me tocaram mais do que outros, e achei um em particular (o que envolve dois homens numa estrada brigando por trânsito) bastante chato, mas de forma geral ver as vinganças violentas às pequenas indignações diárias foi surpreendentemente catártico.
Já que o roundup de links de 2014 fez sucesso, fica aqui o de janeiro de 2015:
Call it in (Estelle, Suzie X, Jamia and Lola, Rookie, 29 jan. 2015): sobre a importância e as dificuldades de apontar quando alguém está sendo ofensivo.
“That’s it: just the act of talking to another person can affect us in a bunch of different ways/bring up really interesting and important issues. In the amazing book Citizen, Claudia Rankine quotes Judith Butler: “We suffer from the condition of being addressable.” Language affects us, and is a way we affect others. But because of the multiplicity of ways we can engage with one another—in person, through email, and more flexible written mediums like Tumblr or Twitter—I feel like it’s also so easy to misspeak, hurt another person, and/or just plain fuck up.”
A rotina dos outros (Luiza Sposito Vilela, Guarda-Chuva, 27 jan. 2015): sobre home office, disciplina, e a grama mais verde do vizinho.
“Quer dizer, assim como é preciso entender muito bem de métrica para ser bom de verso livre, acho que é preciso de alguma ordem no caos para que seja possível perder a linha e liberar a criatividade. Por mais que a porraloquice beatnik seja atraente de um ponto de vista romântico, e que seja de fato importante viver muitas coisas para acumular histórias, tenho cada vez mais certeza de que a rotina só ajuda. Não precisa ser uma estrutura murakamiana, tipo acordar às 4h, escrever o dia todo, correr 10k e ir dormir às 21h, mas entender que a repetição é algo importante e que ela cria um ritmo meio encantatório.”
Powerful women and their “uniforms”: what I’ve learned (Lisa Miller, The Cut, 7 jan. 2015): sobre a performance estética de mulheres poderosas.
“The most successful work uniforms resolve, at least on the surface, a woman’s own inner conflicts about sex and power. Because that’s really the question, isn’t it? Dressing for the office is harder for women than it is for men — it is harder — because workplaces are still overwhelmingly run by men, and women, who compete for recognition under that male gaze, must decide how willing they are to be sexy at work. (For better or worse, the idea of a workforce uniformed in neutralizing “power suits,” armies of men and women decked out in shoulder pads and button-downs, never took off.) How much do you acknowledge to your subordinates and bosses that you have boobs; how much do you remind them with your wardrobe choices that the clothes you’ve put on in the morning sometimes come off? When faced with decisions about what to wear, women have to navigate these issues constantly and explicitly. Inside every woman’s mind runs an endless ticker: How much leg, how much waist, how much skin, how much ass, etc. Are you a Peggy, all self-serious, hiding your sexuality beneath a tweedy habit? Or are you a Joan, flaunting it, understanding that with sex comes power?”
“Sponsored” by my husband: Why it’s a problem that writers never talk about where their money comes from? (Ann Bauer, Salon, 25 jan. 2015): sobre privilégio, arte e ilusões de meritocracia.
“In my opinion, we do an enormous “let them eat cake” disservice to our community when we obfuscate the circumstances that help us write, publish and in some way succeed. I can’t claim the wealth of the first author (not even close); nor do I have the connections of the second. I don’t have their fame either. But I do have a huge advantage over the writer who is living paycheck to paycheck, or lonely and isolated, or dealing with a medical condition, or working a full-time job.”
Ty-Ty, Lena, Yonce and Jenna: no bullshite busines advice from babes you’d like to be BFFs with (Gala Darling, 26 jan. 2015): motivacional para #girlbosses por aí.
“This is YOUR TIME. “One day” and “someday” will never come. It’s so easy to get sucked into the cycle of safely doing what needs to be done, and then you’ll wake up, you’ll be 65, and your life will have passed you by. You may not feel like a bad bitch right now, but trust me, you are. If the people around you don’t make you feel awesome, go in search of people who do. Every single woman I spend time with is one who uplifts, inspires, and encourages me to be the best I can be. You deserve the same!”
“O B de LGBT poderia significar banana que ninguém se importaria” (Jarid Arraes, Forum, 22 jan. 2015): sobre invisibilidade bissexual.
“Para aqueles que precisam de algum apoio, Paulo César Góis lembra: “Não existe maneira correta de ser bissexual. Bissexual não é somente a pessoa que sente atração 50% por mulher e 50% por homem; estas sequer são as únicas possibilidades de gênero e certamente a sexualidade é muito complexa para ser definida dessa forma rasa e rígida”. Sua mensagem é, afinal, de encorajamento – algo que brota da luta genuína: “Se você é uma pessoa que reconhece em si mesma o potencial para se atrair por mais de um gênero, não se sinta com medo de usar a palavra com B. Não tenha medo de ser quem é. A vida é muito curta pra isso. Sim, é difícil — às vezes vêm golpes de onde a gente menos espera —, mas a liberdade também é gloriosa.””
Taylor Swift’s “Time” & “Businessweek” cover photos are powerful, assertive and different from the rest (Rachel Semigran, Bustle, 14 nov. 2014): sobre Taylor Swift como mulher de negócios vs. Taylor Swift como popstar.
“It didn’t take long before the Internet pointed out that the image of Swift on both is nearly identical, but that’s not what actually matters about the covers. What does matter is the fact that Swift appears on both covers with her face taking up the entire real estate. Her gaze is forward, directed right at the reader. It is the sort of cover that is more often reserved for men because it is a powerful and assertive image. More often than not, women are depicted on the covers of magazines showing off their sexy bodies, desirable fashion, and/or they’re very photoshopped, and look completely non-threatening. Take a close look the next time you’re a the magazine aisle at the grocery store and you might notice just how rarely women are looking directly at you without being completely sexualized.”
Em defesa da “cultura inútil” (Laura Pires, Medium, 31 jul. 2014): porque essa coisa de “cultura útil” x “cultura inútil” já cansou.
“Em época de BBB, é muito comum. Começam a brotar pelo Facebook frases do tipo “largue o BBB e vá ler um livro”, como se as duas atitudes fossem mutuamente excludentes. Quando se usa uma frase dessas, pressupõe-se que quem gosta de BBB não lê livros e vice-versa, e se está dizendo nas entrelinhas também que ler livros é uma atividade intelectual e cultural superior a assistir a reality shows.”
There are no cookies: Ten ways to take action as a trans ally (even if you’re also trans) (Mari Brighe, Autostraddle, 13 jan. 2015): um guia simples, claro e direto para aliados.
“Trans people are extremely grateful for our allies. You’re absolutely critical in helping us move our causes forward. That being said, don’t expect a constant outpouring of thank-yous for what you’re doing. Don’t get huffy if you don’t get hugs and cookies and rainbow glitter for every single thing you do as an ally. Don’t pout if you don’t get the “props” you deserve for the work you’re doing. And no, you don’t get a special ally flag. Allies don’t do their work because they want gratitude and recognition — they do it because they genuinely care about trans people and want to see the world improve for them. If seeing positive change isn’t enough of a motivator for you, then you’re failing as an ally. Furthermore, claiming to be an ally (and even doing some ally-like things) isn’t a shield from criticism, and it doesn’t absolve you of the fuck-ups you make when interacting with trans people or give you license to act like an asshole. If you do something shitty, you should still expect to get called out. You should not, under any circumstances, accuse trans people of “alienating allies” if they get upset with you over your screw-ups.”
This is not a startup story (Emily Gould, Fast Company, 10 out. 2014): sobre Emily Books, sucesso e negócios na internet.
“Startup stories usually begin in a garage and end in huge payouts, with funding round deals sprinkled throughout. Startup stories have clear lessons, firm distinctions between success and failure. This is not a startup story. As we make the decision about our company’s future, I’ve begun to look back on what we’ve learned, and what we’re still trying to figure out.”
MR Roundtable: Should blogs moderate comments? (Leandra Medine, Stella Bugbee, Amelia Diamond and Kate Barnett, Man Repeller, 9 jan. 2015): discussão relevante para todos que têm blogs/sites/produzem conteúdo online.
“Any time you’re getting a ton of reader engagement at a higher level, it’s great. We have a funny relationship with our commenters. There are some of them who are really hardcore and they come back all the time. We talk to them and we know that certain commenters are going to comment on certain stories directly to us in the same way over and over. But I don’t think that online (in general) commenters should have a right to say whatever they want. You should conduct yourself with all of the basic decency that you would in person.”
In an unequal world, mocking all serves the powerful (Saladin Ahmed, The New York Times, 11 jan. 2015): sobre o perigo do “equal-opportunity offender”.
“The question for writers and artists, then, is not whether we ought to limit ourselves, but how we already limit ourselves. In a field dominated by privileged voices, it’s not enough to say “Mock everyone!” In an unequal world, satire that mocks everyone equally ends up serving the powerful. And in the context of brutal inequality, it is worth at least asking what preexisting injuries we are adding our insults to.”
Why the McKanye feud is bad for everyone (Craig Jenkins, Vulture, 9 jan. 2015): sobre o ridículo do backlash da colaboração West/McCartney.
“”And the assumption that pillars of middle-aged Caucasian culture are pillars of all the nation’s culture is rooted in dismissive arrogance. Failure to comprehend the existence of an American experience that doesn’t involve the Beatles almost validates the anti-McCartney pushback as a critique of an exclusionary culture. Is it really that weird for younger Kanye fans to be unfamiliar with a man whose band broke up 45 years ago? (…) It’s funny: West spent the better part of a calendar year threatening to gate-crash high society with his last album, 2013’s Yeezus. With “Only One,” the coup has arrived, and it’s surprisingly pretty. Can we at least agree on that?””
Adrian Petersen and what our fathers did to us: we have not turned out just fine (Jeb Lund, The Guardian, 17 set. 2014): sobre violência doméstica e disciplina por violência física.
“Or you find yourself at a college football party last weekend, and Adrian Peterson comes up, and a woman from out of town asks, “Do people in the south really do that still? How does it stop?” And a dude in his early thirties who looks like a 6ft-3in brick wall says, “Everyone on my block did that. It stops as soon as they realize you might be able to beat their ass just as good.” And without thinking about it, you kill the party for the next two minutes by saying, “It’s not just the south. I grew up in San Francisco. Sometimes nobody winds up bigger or stronger. Sometimes it stops because you move out. Or because you realize that if both of you don’t grow up, one of you is going to die.””
The subtle art of not giving a fuck (Mark Manson, 8 jan. 2015): motivacional bem-humorado com a maior concentração da palavra “fuck” que eu já li.
“In life, our fucks must be spent on something. There really is no such thing as not giving a fuck. The question is simply how we each choose to allot our fucks. You only get a limited amount of fucks to give over your lifetime, so you must spend them with care. As my father used to say, “Fucks don’t grow on trees, Mark.” OK, he never actually said that. But fuck it, pretend like he did. The point is that fucks have to be earned and then invested wisely. Fucks are cultivated like a beautiful fucking garden, where if you fuck shit up and the fucks get fucked, then you’ve fucking fucked your fucks all the fuck up.”
The genius of Taylor Swift’s girlfriend collection (Anne Helen Petersen, Buzzfeed, 7 jan. 2015): sobre performatividade em mídias sociais, Taylor Swift e construção de persona.
“Certainly she hasn’t made friendship uncool. It’s simply that the friends Swift chooses to present to the world serve to support crucial, carefully crafted components of Swift’s image. She isn’t coldhearted or utilitarian in her friendship so much as savvy to the ways in which the production of celebrity is, at its heart, utilitarian — and it takes a lot of labor to make something as manufactured as a celebrity image look as natural as Taylor Swift and Lorde on a beach, just being the wacky and carefree young women that they are.”
Rebel Girls: waiter, there’s some theory in my gender (Carmen Rios, Autostraddle, 7 jan. 2015): uma boa introdução aos estudos de gênero.
“Gender is one of the first things I studied in women’s studies that really opened my eyes to how we’re socialized, as people, to become cogs in the big machine that is our society. Once you realize the truth about gender, you start to see the truth in a lot of other things. (Coincidentally, a lot of other things are related to the concept of gender, like, ummm, patriarchy, heterosexism, and misogyny.) And the truth about gender is that it’s pretty much a fairytale our culture has made up over time in order to sleep well at night thinking it understands the world.”
Lessons of mortality and immortality from my father, Carl Sagan (Sasha Sagan, The Cut, 15 abr. 2014): sobre aprender que “we are star stuff” desde criança.
““You are alive right this second. That is an amazing thing,” they told me. When you consider the nearly infinite number of forks in the road that lead to any single person being born, they said, you must be grateful that you’re you at this very second. Think of the enormous number of potential alternate universes where, for example, your great-great-grandparents never meet and you never come to be. Moreover, you have the pleasure of living on a planet where you have evolved to breathe the air, drink the water, and love the warmth of the closest star. You’re connected to the generations through DNA — and, even farther back, to the universe, because every cell in your body was cooked in the hearts of stars. We are star stuff, my dad famously said, and he made me feel that way.”
On turning 30 (Molly Crabapple, Vice, 27 jan. 2014): sobre crescer e envelhecer como mulher.
“Innocence is not doing. Not running off to New York. Not drinking whiskey till 4 AM. Not fucking that boy or girl because they make your heart scream electric, then waking up unpunished the next day. Not hacking a system rigged against you. Innocence is a relic of a time when women had the same legal status as children. Innocence is beneficial to your owner. It benefits you not at all.”
True confessions of a former “cool girl” (Abby Rosmarin, Hello Giggles, 4 nov. 2014): sobre cool girls.
“The frightening part was that, the older I got, the more I started to wake up to my Cool Girl shtick, and the more I feared deviating from it. At that point, I had seen guys in my life conveniently leave just as cracks started to appear in my veneer and genuine emotion had shined through. Never mind the fact that these guys were already treating me terribly, even while I was pretending to be totally low-maintenance. Rather than focusing on how I deserved to be treated, I’d focus on how I ruined everything by being so uncool and everything I had to do to avoid falling into the same uncool traps with the next guy.”
“In which we can feel the horses long before horses enter the scene”: Girl geniuses (Ann Friedman, This recording, 14 mar. 2011): sobre Patti Smith e mulheres artistas.
“Women’s support for other women doesn’t typically come with baggage of this size and shape. This is why it’s important for us to believe in each other – I mean, really believe in each other. To tell each other to stop punishing ourselves when, after years of pursuing our passion but still calling it a hobby, we remain unconvinced of our own power and ability.”
Raisin, my four-year-old role model (Scaachi Koul, The Hairpin, 2 jan. 2015): sobre famílias, poder e a surpreendente autoconfiança das crianças.
“I’m an adult. People keep telling me I’m an adult. I always figured that with adulthood came the ability to stand up to your parents, but I still haven’t been able to calibrate this. I’m home for the holidays right now, engaging in another Cold War with my dad. He started giving me the silent treatment 42 hours into my trip. I’m still not sure why, but instead of shrugging him off, I’m furious that he manages to wield unfair control over my emotions.”
Caitlin (Caitlin Stasey, Herself., 4 jan. 2015): parte do lindo projeto Herself., da atriz/artistsa Caitlin Stasey, com entrevistas com mulheres acompanhadas por fotos nuas livres do male gaze.
“When did you become aware of your gender?
It was always thrust upon me. I never had an awakening, it was just understood that I was born cisgendered so there was never any turmoil over my sexuality or upset. I was given gender-neutral toys but for the most part I opted for barbies, toy kitchens, lovely little dresses; the only truly non-gendered items I loved were art supplies (although the reason I became interested in art was because it was the only way I could access images of naked women without question!). I was a HUGE girly girl save for my Blundstone boots. I was always wearing a tutu & these heavy duty workman’s boots. The simple reason being that I did NOT care for shoelace tying and my Blundstones were incredibly comfy. I’ve worn them consistently all my life.”
Pretty Little Liars Episode 514 recap: The Long Goodbye (Heather Hogan, Autostraddle, 8 jan. 2015): sim, incluí um recap do episódio 5×14 de Pretty Little Liars, porque a Heather Hogan sempre captura a força emocional da série como ninguém, e eu prossigo na minha missão de vida de convencer todo mundo a ver esse programa maravilhoso.
“But she did come out. And she let herself be around (and under and on top of and all over) Emily. And she left, on her own terms, to swim again, on a scholarship at one of the most prestigious universities in the country. The message the world projects at us from every platform at all times always is that nothing we do as women matters, because we will always be victims, because someone else will always being making our decisions for us. That is the theme Pretty Little Liars explores more than anything, and that is the game Paige McCullers won. She fought the monster that made her a monster, and she, alone, decided to stop punching at the echos and screaming at the wind.”
Self-care and survival: an interview with Janet Mock (Fariha Roisin, The Hairpin, 13 jan. 2015): sobre self-care, amor próprio e conexões.
“I think self-care is something deliberate, something that I do to take care of myself in a world that tells me I shouldn’t necessarily exist. That my body and my identity don’t necessarily matter—especially in systems that weren’t built for me to really thrive. We can say that the ways in which we survive are ways in which we take care of ourselves—but I don’t really think that’s care—that’s us trying to survive in systems that weren’t built for us.”
LINKS: VÍDEO & ÁUDIO
Why take Taylor Swift seriously (Stuff Mom Never Told You, 5 jan. 2015): sobre como a Taylor Swift é maravilhosa (não sei se vocês já reparam, mas ela é meu novo role model).
If you don’t have anything nice to say, SAY IT IN ALL CAPS (This American Life, 23 jan. 2015): sobre trolls na internet, com um primeiro ato muito emocionante da Lindy West.